Better Judgement

We learn from our mistakes. But can we learn something different from making the same mistake over and over?


If we go against all our better judgement and subject to the fate of repeating painful mistakes, is there anything to learn? I am guilty of repeat offence. But i am still unclear whether i learnt anything. Maybe my lesson is to never make the same mistake twice? Then again, is making the same mistakes really just further enforcing it in your mind, allowing you to stop second guessing the lessons you've learnt? if you make the same mistake, but the outcome is different, is it still a mistake?


Judgement is something we develop over time. judgement pairs with our basic instincts and allows us to make decisions which have the best outcome. The hard part is learning to trust your judgement. Most often my first judgement is correct, but i question myself and get stuck in a loop of wondering. Can we condition ourselves to trust our better judgement?

What if our better judgement was a little being on our shoulder, would it kick our asses every time we ignored it? would it constantly be telling us we're wrong, when really we made the decisions we had to make, for us at that point in time?


If judgement is based on the past, are we not claiming psychic abilities by going with it? We'll never be sure, unless we take a chance. But we cannot constantly be taking chances and falling flat on our faces. It makes us look like fools and it breaks our pretty faces. So finding a balance is the key. 


Better Judgement is something you just trust 90% of the time, but sometimes, for that other 10% maybe it's time we took a chance. A chance on "love", friends, family, opportunity, just take a chance on life. 


"There ain't no reason things are this way,
It's how they always been and they intend to stay."

An Accidental Timeline

I was recently involved in an accident. I'm a firm believer in learning from mistakes and taking something from every experience, so the following is what i've learnt.

Everything has a timeline. My accident instilled fear, doubt and pain in me, but i know i'm going to be ok. But just because i know i'll overcome it, doesn't mean it will happen straight away. Everything has a proper "mourning period" so to speak.
For example, relationships. Some say it takes half the time you were together to get over a relationships, others say a broken heart takes at least a year to heal, some convince themselves they'll be over it in a week. The point is, the time after must run it's course.

I know from past experiences, running from the pain and endless analysis of the situation at the time, only makes it worse further on.

I can't say that i believe in a higher power, or that everything happens for a reason. But I understand that every action must have an equal and opposite reaction. Good and evil, right and wrong, truth and lies. The world cannot constantly be fair and just, because then there would be no such thing as fairness or justice. But just because i know this as a fact, does that mean i can't complain about it when life screws me over, or when a tragic event occurs?

Is it not my rite to assert those feelings?

Sometimes we do need a push to speed up a recovery process, but other times, we need to be left alone to heal ourselves. The ability to self reflect is something we all need to develop, because at some point in life, we are all alone.

Sometimes i wish there was someone else fighting for me, but at times like this i realize that fighting for myself makes me stronger and, i hope, a better person. Self healing is possibly our only defense to crumpling under the "weight of the word"

So get out those spoons, the tub of ice cream and the raw cookie dough, and go to town. Just remember, it's part of the timeline.